Perfectionism, in psychology, is a personality trait characterized by a person’s striving for flawlessness and setting excessively high performance standards, accompanied by overly critical self-evaluations and concerns regarding others’ evaluations. It is best conceptualized as a multidimensional characteristic, as psychologists … Continue reading The failed perfectionist
Lagos state occupies the smallest landmass and yet holds the largest population in Nigeria. This is because to many, it is the city of dreams offering endless opportunities for all who dare to live within its borders. Despite the population explosion resulting in housing deficit, scarce resources such as electricity and water, the flood menace, waste management challenges high crime and the heavy traffic, people still continue to troop westward in the hope of securing their own piece of the sky. It is no longer news, the traffic conditions that exist here. For many of the inhabitants it is a … Continue reading Lagos State Traffic: A Way Out
Girls in white dresses with blue satin sashes/Snowflakes that stay on my nose and eyelashes/Brown paper packages tied up with strings/These are a few of my favourite things…. – A Few of my favourite things, Sound of Music. I’m quite upset at the moment. In fact I have been upset since Monday last week. Except for the weekend which was gloriously peaceful, I’ve had a very rough 6 days, no thanks to the heavy construction and traffic taking place around my axis and made worse by the daily rainfall. Over the years I have repressed my feelings concerning Lagos traffic because like … Continue reading These are a few of of my favorite things
How do you explain not being able to write because you feel your posts are not good enough, or do not exactly explain how you exactly feel? For weeks now I have starred at my screen almost everyday, willing myself to write. I have lots of posts of unfinished stories, experiences and poems. I would start and then either get stuck or just not like the post at all. Nothing seemed post worthy. At some point in time guilt set in – getting weekly notifications from good ol’ WordPress, trying to encourage and inspire me to write, and not being able to meet up … Continue reading Am I too Self Absorbed?
Some of us have been cheated on: its not a great feeling. Some of us have cheated: I’m sure it’s an even worse feeling – that’s if you have any conscience at all, haha… Ahem, just kidding *straight face*. Some of us have been cheated on and have cheated, so we can’t really be judgmental in this matter, can we? Can we? Don’t take this post too seriously, The title was just to throw you off (Got ya, didn’t I?) 😀 . I’d love to share a video with you though, which absolutely left me in stitches!! It doesn’t matter … Continue reading On the issue of Cheating…
4:45pm I got off work early today, woohoo!! I happily skip to the bus stop. If I’m lucky I’ll get a bus that I can walk into, not one that others rush and fight over to get a space. I have promised myself that I won’t struggle for bus space Ever Again. However I have developed a coping skill, this is it: when the bus is approaching and people are chasing it I estimate at what point it will stop and try to position myself there. When it does stop I should be located somewhere close to the door and … Continue reading EPISODE #2: THE FIGHTER
One of the most prominent features of Lagos state is that it is over-populated. For the smallest state in the country it accommodates over 9,113,605 people. Yep, that’s true. Living in Lagos requires a lot of energy and a certain amount of alertness – a spring in your step, if you will. You also have to be very street smart to survive! Overpopulated locations come with alot of issues, few of which are cramped residential areas, scarce resources, consistent road traffic and a wide variety of characters! Not a single day goes by without several interesting scenes. It is in … Continue reading The Drunk, The Fighter and The One-way Driver.